My husband has refused to touch me since I gave birth. What should I do?
Please help me. I gave birth about three months ago and my husband has not looked at me closely not to talk touching me or having sex with me. We just got married last year and this is my first child. My husband and I used to be in love but I don’t know what is going on now. We used to be very fond of each other. Like we almost can’t stay apart for a long time, when he goes to work, he calls me and sends me text messages frequently to ensure that I am safe. Even as unmarried people, we attended functions together and we had sex regularly. We were in love and there was this level of understanding that existed between us. It was so real and it made our love life smooth and effortless. Because of this, getting married was not a problem.
We got married after meeting both families and I got pregnant afterward. Before I got pregnant, we had sex multiple times on the couch, bedroom, even in the bathroom. I later got pregnant and we didn’t even stop. Somehow it felt as if the craving for sex even increased. My husband loved me and wanted to have sex frequently with me while I was pregnant but considering that I was heavily pregnant and sometimes my hormones mess with me, I was the one who withdrew and tried to reduce the sex. I could not wait to put to bed so that I can have unstoppable and mind-blowing sex with my husband but this happened otherwise. I delivered a baby girl and a few days after I was confirmed okay, I was expecting my husband to make advances towards me but he didn’t.
I was a bit worried but I overlooked it and decided to give him more time, say a few days. The coming days were not different either. We only cuddled and kissed and that was all. After waiting for some days, I decided to make advances but I was turned down. My husband said he was not in the mood. I tried to find out what was wrong but he maintained that he was fine. I have never felt so helpless in my life. How can someone who used to be so interested in sex suddenly dislike sex? This worries me so much and I can’t help it. I have been sex starved for some time now and he doesn’t seem to notice me. I have tried everything within my powers to make him look at me but he doesn’t. Could it be that he is cheating on me? I bet he must be cheating on me because he can’t stay this long without having sex and still be calm.
My sexual needs increase by the day and the more I try to stifle them, the more it increases. I can’t help myself anymore. How have I wronged my husband? He is seriously maltreating me and he doesn’t care how I feel about it. I don’t want to get sex outside but I am beginning to consider it as an option. I can’t continue like this, I am seriously not okay and I can’t do anything about it. Is it a crime if I seek sex outside, even if it is going to be just once. Or perhaps I could find one person and stick with him until my husband gets back to his senses. I feel starved a lot and it is affecting me and the way I react to things. What is the best thing for me to do? Please, I want to know what you and your readers think and it.